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[Leadmen]

That is a good one OZ. I think that if I combined dinner and a roller coaster there would be a problem. John

 

[mk26gmls]

Hey Wellington,

That is tough buddy.

My wife is very supportive. She buys me soldiers for all kinds of occasions. I however don't talk to her about my hobby unless she initiates the conversation. I keep a wish list of stuff on her computer that I won't buy for myself. Everything on that list is for her or my family to get me on special occasions.

Just remember to be who you truly are. My wife loves to watch the Lifetime channel, (I hate it personally) read her People magazines (loads of crap), buy makeup (what a waste) and clothes (how many do you honestly need?). As long as she keeps it in the budget, I could care less though. It makes her happy. She does the same for me. If she wants to spend more than the budget or if I want too, we discuss it. It isn't an issue for either of us. If your not spending more on the hobby than you should or can afford, something else may be going on.

For instance, my brother restores old cars as his hobby. His wife however, hates it. It doesn't matter how much money he makes on a car either. For them, I believe the issue is about her wanting to "control" him. She is fighting a losing battle there. He has compromised in the past on this issue and it is never enough. He finally told her one day after he sold a car that he didn't want to sell no more. He told her to get over it. She still doesn't like it, but she doesn't give him anymore flak. I am not recommending this solution to you. Only you know all the facts to determine the best course for you. All I am saying is your spouse should not try to change who you are. My wife thinks my love of history is "cute". She would not try to dissuade me from it. If I got in financial difficulty, I would sell them as fast as I could. I wouldn't sell them because my wife didn't like them or hated my hobby.

Best of luck.

Darrell

 

[sammy719]

Re: Question.............FROM SAMMY719'S WIFE'S PERSPECTIVE

Hello there gentlemen!
Here is my perspective on my husband's toy soldier collecting. My husband has been collecting for a few years now, and I admit, it the beginning, I just didn't get it. What was all of the fuss about. They are just "little toy soldiers." Then he explained what it was all about and where he was coming from, what it meant to him and then I understood. My thing is, as long as his collecting doesn't interferre with us being able to pay our bills and put food on the table, then what the heck is the harm in him collecting. He could be out doing all kinds of other things that I know I wouldn't like or approve of, you all know what I mean I'm sure, but he isn't. Sammy collects his soldiers and has a room just for his display. It makes him happy, it relieves stress and therefore it makes me happy. It's also a given on Christmas that he will have some K&C under the tree. I even have to admit, I get onto Treefrog every now and then I check out what is going on. Sammy gets me curious sometimes, telling me of what is going on here, which is exactly why I am responding to this. So for all the wives out there that have a problem with their husbands collections, HUSH! It makes them happy, therefore a happy marriage life.

Thanks, and hope you all have fun collecting more....Beth

 

[Harrytheheid]

Re: Question.............FROM SAMMY719'S WIFE'S PERSPECTIVE

Hello there gentlemen!
Here is my perspective on my husband's toy soldier collecting. My husband has been collecting for a few years now, and I admit, it the beginning, I just didn't get it. What was all of the fuss about. They are just "little toy soldiers." Then he explained what it was all about and where he was coming from, what it meant to him and then I understood. My thing is, as long as his collecting doesn't interferre with us being able to pay our bills and put food on the table, then what the heck is the harm in him collecting. He could be out doing all kinds of other things that I know I wouldn't like or approve of, you all know what I mean I'm sure, but he isn't. Sammy collects his soldiers and has a room just for his display. It makes him happy, it relieves stress and therefore it makes me happy. It's also a given on Christmas that he will have some K&C under the tree. I even have to admit, I get onto Treefrog every now and then I check out what is going on. Sammy gets me curious sometimes, telling me of what is going on here, which is exactly why I am responding to this. So for all the wives out there that have a problem with their husbands collections, HUSH! It makes them happy, therefore a happy marriage life.

Thanks, and hope you all have fun collecting more....Beth

Sammy.....I'm going to assume that you didn't write this yourself..

Seriously though, I'd like to thank Beth for posting her response as I have been suffering from audio torture since I got home last Wednesday with my latest TS acquisitions, even the extra SOHK sets I got her this time haven't been enough to get me out the doghouse - and while I've explained that there's more TS's on the way, most notably a few K&C UK TRL sets, she doesn't know just quite how many of these are on standby waiting for me to mobilise them from Tony's HQ in Durham....
I'm going to copy and paste Beth's excellent post into an on-line translator, English to Chinese. Hopefully, once Little Boss reads it, harmonious equilibrium shall return to Heid Mansion in Dalian before I travel to Nigeria on Saturday.

Best Regards
H

 

[Harrytheheid]

Re: Question.............FROM SAMMY719'S WIFE'S PERSPECTIVE

Sammy.....I'm going to assume that you didn't write this yourself..

Seriously though, I'd like to thank Beth for posting her response as I have been suffering from audio torture since I got home last Wednesday with my latest TS acquisitions, even the extra SOHK sets I got her this time haven't been enough to get me out the doghouse - and while I've explained that there's more TS's on the way, most notably a few K&C UK TRL sets, she doesn't know just quite how many of these are on standby waiting for me to mobilise them from Tony's HQ in Durham....
I'm going to copy and paste Beth's excellent post into an on-line translator, English to Chinese. Hopefully, once Little Boss reads it, harmonious equilibrium shall return to Heid Mansion in Dalian before I travel to Nigeria on Saturday.

Best Regards
H

你好那里先生们! 这我的对我的husband'的透视; s小锡兵收集。 我的丈夫现在收集几年，并且我承认，它起点， I didn' t得到它。 什么是所有忙乱。 他们是" 少许玩具soldiers." 然后他解释了什么所有是，并且他来自的地方，什么它意味给他我然后了解。 我的事是，只要他收集的doesn' 与我们的t interferre能付我们的帐单和把食物在桌上，然后什么放是在他的害处收集。 他可能做我知道I wouldn'的各种各样的其他事; 所有知道的t象或批准，您什么我意味I' m肯定，但是他isn' T. Sammy收集他的战士并且有一间屋子他的显示的。 它使他愉快，它解除重音并且它使我愉快。 It' 在圣诞节给的也s他将有某一K& C在树下。 我必须甚而承认，我得到在Treefrog上我常常检查怎么回事。 Sammy有时得到我好奇，告诉我怎么回事，正确地是我为什么反应此。 因此为有他们的丈夫汇集的一个问题那里的所有妻子，静寂! 它使他们愉快，因此美满的婚姻生活。 感谢，和希望您获得乐趣收集更多的全部….Beth

Done - and got a kinda RESULT.
Thanks Again Beth.

Best Regards
H

 

[Simpson & his donkey.]

My wife and I are having a major disagreement on my collection and I want to run something past you guys and get your perspective....I collect toy soldiers and antiques as we all do here, its me and it will never change, currently my stuff is displayed very tastfully in a palor room we have off our main floor, only because there currently is no where else to put it, ....my wife continually calls my stuff crap and that she can't stand what I have and avoids even going into the room that my collection sits in...it looks very tastful and I have had most people tell me that it looks nice whether they are not telling me the truth or not isn't the point...anyhow...I feel guilty about this based on my wifes comments...and DO NOT enjoy my collection as a result of her feelings she has expressed to me and others on a regular basis....I have suggested that we finish off the basement so that I could put my stuff in a room that is out of the way and I have now been told that if I think I'm putting stuff in a room in the basement wrecking it or where my 2 year old can't play freely then I have another thing coming....how does it work in your guys homes and what is your spouse truley like regarding it??? I have also been made to feel guilty about any money I spend...if I had to I would sell my stuff in a minute to help my family out....I actually sold off my entire military collection in the past because of these unwelcomed comments and have helped my family out with the money I got....

My wife likes to spend money as well on clothes, makeup, going for diner with her friends etc....she has nothing to show for it yet I do without to buy stuff..and if I had to I would sell it in a heart beat.....



WELLINGTON[/QU

Hi Wellington, My husband has his collection displayed in our living room in 2 cabinets & is always wanting just another cabinet but I put my foot down as wall to wall cabinets is not attractive. I think his dioramas are very good but also complain about the money when things get tight. I don't mind the hobby & time spent on it & we do go to military shows as a family etc, we do seem to get bits of tanks, men & paint glue etc all over the house. I dont spend much on clothes & we dont go out to dinner that often. Sounds like you need a shed or 2nd house to extend your hobby. from Trish (aka Simpson & his Donkey's wife). P.S I got caught replying to this and she who must be obeyed took over.Simmo.

 

[VIRIATO]

With me, there is always a need for compromise: room, money, etc.. and my wife reminds me of that. Another factor is time spent on the net. But fortunately my wife sees the art in toy soldiers and even makes comments on pieces. For instance, she once saw K&C's Hitler staff car and said: «now, this is a piece you should get». Because of room and other options I caved out of that one, but maybe she was the one who was right. I would say that my wife is not fascinated with this hobby of mine but she tolerates it, and I think it will always be this way as long as we can strike a balance.
Wellington, best wishes for your balance, that's the best I can say.

P.S.
Maybe concentrating exclusively on the pieces you find essential might help...

Gotta go now,
Paulo