Seeking advice for personal dilemma (1 Viewer)

[sceic2]

This is one of those…I’ve got a friend who has a problem and what would you tell my friend to do to solve the problem questions. I would like to know what forum members would recommend for a course of action for my friend.

So, what if you had a friend who had two retired K&C sets (one DD38 – M8 Armoured Car and one DD39 – GMC Truck) and your friend wanted to trade them with a dealer (a dealer whom your friend has known for about a year now and has nothing but a really great dealer/customer almost friendship relationship with). The trade offered by my friend is the retired sets for newer K&C sets. Your friend and the dealer have done this before many, many times. Let’s say the trade is for some new Battle of the Bulge Germans and some Fall of Berlin Germans. Your friend has duplicates of the sets they want to trade so it really isn’t a loss for your friend. It’s really up to the dealer to tell your friend what the dealer is willing to offer in this trade, after all the dealer does this sort-of-thing on a regular basis and your friend knows the dealer is very reputable and fair.

Your friend sends the dealer a wish list of the sets they want to get in this deal. The wish list is in priority order of wanted first. Your friend knows what the offered sets originally sold for but does not know what the secondary market prices have been. But the dealer does. And, the new sets coming from the dealer are at dealer’s cost.

Your friend gets an offer from the dealer, three new sets and some money. Not much money less than $25. So, your friend accepts the offer and sends the retired sets to the dealer and the dealer sends the three sets and the money to your friend.

A few days later, the dealer tells your friend that the offer should have been the three sets and your friend should have sent the money with the retired sets, not the dealer sending the money with the three newer sets. The dealer only mentions this jokingly in an email about a different subject and says, “oh well the deal is done” or words to that effect. But your friend is feeling that there is perhaps a small (or large?) obligation to tear-up the dealer’s check and send the dealer the same amount of money that should have been sent before the mix-up. Your friend values this dealer greatly and they do not want to create any disruption in that relationship. The money is no big amount and really in the course of life is not very much. But a deal is a deal.

What is your advice about what I should tell my friend? Should my friend:
(1) Know that the deal is done and each of them (my friend and the dealer) live with it; or
(2) Tear-up the dealer's check and not send the dealer that same amount of money; or
(3) Tear-up the dealer's check and send the dealer the same amount of my friend’s money; or
(4) Do something else?

Michael

 

[noli-poli]

This is one of those…I’ve got a friend who has a problem and what would you tell my friend to do to solve the problem questions. I would like to know what forum members would recommend for a course of action for my friend.

So, what if you had a friend who had two retired K&C sets (one DD38 – M8 Armoured Car and one DD39 – GMC Truck) and your friend wanted to trade them with a dealer (a dealer whom your friend has known for about a year now and has nothing but a really great dealer/customer almost friendship relationship with). The trade offered by my friend is the retired sets for newer K&C sets. Your friend and the dealer have done this before many, many times. Let’s say the trade is for some new Battle of the Bulge Germans and some Fall of Berlin Germans. Your friend has duplicates of the sets they want to trade so it really isn’t a loss for your friend. It’s really up to the dealer to tell your friend what the dealer is willing to offer in this trade, after all the dealer does this sort-of-thing on a regular basis and your friend knows the dealer is very reputable and fair.

Your friend sends the dealer a wish list of the sets they want to get in this deal. The wish list is in priority order of wanted first. Your friend knows what the offered sets originally sold for but does not know what the secondary market prices have been. But the dealer does. And, the new sets coming from the dealer are at dealer’s cost.

Your friend gets an offer from the dealer, three new sets and some money. Not much money less than $25. So, your friend accepts the offer and sends the retired sets to the dealer and the dealer sends the three sets and the money to your friend.

A few days later, the dealer tells your friend that the offer should have been the three sets and your friend should have sent the money with the retired sets, not the dealer sending the money with the three newer sets. The dealer only mentions this jokingly in an email about a different subject and says, “oh well the deal is done” or words to that effect. But your friend is feeling that there is perhaps a small (or large?) obligation to tear-up the dealer’s check and send the dealer the same amount of money that should have been sent before the mix-up. Your friend values this dealer greatly and they do not want to create any disruption in that relationship. The money is no big amount and really in the course of life is not very much. But a deal is a deal.

What is your advice about what I should tell my friend? Should my friend:
(1) Know that the deal is done and each of them (my friend and the dealer) live with it; or
(2) Tear-up the dealer's check and not send the dealer that same amount of money; or
(3) Tear-up the dealer's check and send the dealer the same amount of my friend’s money; or
(4) Do something else?

Michael

I'll go with #1. A deal is a deal and no amount of guilty feelings should make your friend uncomfortable. The dealer will actually make more if he sells the retired items in the e-bay...if he waits a little bit longer. BTW, I have 6 of the retired jimmy's (DD39) and bought another one at $125 (originally at $99). So you see, to date, the price hasn't appreciated much

So tell your friend to relax and enjoy the new sets...and maybe your friend should start looking for a new "friend."
N-P

 

[jazzeum]

Number 1, in my book. A deal's a deal plus the dealer is getting two retired sets. Your friend is getting about $270 worth of product and receiving a DD 38 that not long ago went for $149 and a DD 39 that went for $199 although recently it went for $150. Assuming that $150 is a more reasonable price, that's $299 in the aggregate. Factor in the $25, that brings the total deal for your friend to $295 and to the dealer to $299. That's what I call a pretty fair deal. Everybody got equal value and should be happy.

 

[Peter Reuss]

Tell him to cash the check! Any reputable dealer will stand by a deal they have made. No guilt. No shame. Just tell him to be happy that a good deal was made.

Now he has more money to buy soldiers ...

 

[sceic2]

Tell him to cash the check! Any reputable dealer will stand by a deal they have made. No guilt. No shame. Just tell him to be happy that a good deal was made. Now he has more money to buy soldiers ...

Well, he (my friend) has told me that he will spend the money with the dealer anyway, so I guess....

Michael

 

[OzDigger]

Clearly the dealer wasn't concerned because he sent your friend the money, so the best advice is to forget about this little incident and keep buying from the dealer.