With all due respect, you really don't know New York if you think that. I lived in NYC for several years, and I now live in an incredible historic Village on the North Shore of Long Island called Roslyn Harbor. Before I moved to Roslyn Harbor, I lived for 3 years in the Grammercy region of Manhattan. Before that I lived in Brooklyn Heights for several years. In NYC, I was surrounded by incredible food, cultural events that are unmatched outside of Paris, and access to virtually anything a person could want to do or see. I lived through 9-11 (I was about 5 blocks from the World Trade Center on Fulton Street and saw the fireball from the second plane hitting) and saw New Yorkers' courage, kindness, sacrifice and support. New York has had two excellent mayors in a row in Rudy Guiliani and Mike Bloomberg, and is clean, safe and well governed. Central Park is a safe and pleasant place to have a picnic, go to the zoo, exercise, or see a free performance. Believe it or not, I find the people to be generally polite and friendly, and have rarely had bad experiences. A year or two ago, New York was voted the most polite big city in America. If you prefer a house, and some living space, there are amazing places to live on Long Island, parts of Staten Island and Queens,in Westchester, or in New Jersey, all within a fairly easy commute of the City. My community is zoned for a minimum property size of half an acre, and most lots are an acre or more. Its wide open, with tons of huge old trees, and many of the homes are historic. I have a lovely view from my front porch of the Harbor about 150 feet away. The schools are great, and there are tons of activities for kids.
I've lived a lot of places, including Irving Texas, Beaumont Texas, and Rome Italy, but I can't imagine living anywhere but New York.
The one downside, and it is a big downside, it the cost of living. It is ridiculously expensive to live in New York. A one bedroom coop apartment will run you half-a-million, a two bedroom 1.5 million plus, double that for condos. State and City taxes are insane. Heck, renting a parking space is $500 a month.