I agree that people may well be feel offended at a variety of things given their own personal background and world view. People have a right to be offended. It is a part of holding things sacred. When others appear to attack them it is natural that there is, to some degree, a capacity to feel this offense quite keenly.
Yet I believe it to be equally true that the mere act of feeling offended does not bring with it an inherent legitimacy. Just because a person feels offended does not, of itself, render the cause of his/her offence, offensive. That is, just because I am offended, does not mean that someone has been offensive. Saying 'I am offended' is little different from saying 'I am right'. It is a point of view, not an absolute truth.
I see some of the people posting have used the term 'Aussie'. I also know that the three letter descriptor for our English friends is forbidden. If someone from Pakistan was on the forum and I shortened his national origin to describe him/her, even in jest, it would, quite rightly in my view, be deleted. Yet from some of the posts it would appear that if I said 'I am offended' that would carry some weight. Surely that cannot be the case? If I was offended by that word, and to be strictly (and illogically) just about the rules of the forum, I would have a case, it would reveal nothing about the people using the word, but it would reveal an enormous amount about me.
At a recent in-service a group of one hundred of us were shown a video of two basketball teams of four (yes, my American friends, I know that is not a team!) doing passing drills. Our task was to count the number of times the white team (they were dressed in white, not divided on racial lines) passed the ball. They split us into young and old (now that hurt!) and they made it a competition to see who could get the right number. Of the hundred people, most got it right. Thoulden the organiser said, who saw the Bear? Five people did (not me) . He replayed the video and in the middle of this tightly framed shot of eight people passing two basketballs, a 6 foot man dressed as a bear moonwalked through the middle. The ball only just missed him!
We saw what we wanted to see, as so often we hear what we want to hear. In many cases, we are offended when we want to be and we are charmed when we want to be.
I will meet Andy in July. I can choose to see him as an anti-Semite, anti Afro American, price rising, retiring that wounded Scots Grey, controller of Ebay with no regard for my collecting preferences (which are ridiculously cheap high quality metal toy soldiers)…or, I can see him as a decent chap who has flown to Australia to promote his business and talk about a hobby that I have fallen in love with.
In the final analysis, how I choose to see him will say nothing about Andy…but it will say a good deal about me.
Feel free to put me on your ignore list if I have offended…but I warn you…you will find the movie game hard to play!