hotel3alpha
Command Sergeant Major
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As a born and bred southerner, with deep southern family roots, I find your above comment reprehensible and grossly ignorant. But then again, sure, maybe that bathroom at the mini mart was a perfect symbol for the entire region.
Ive also lived, as an adult, in the Midwest (3 different states) and Texas. Every place had its fair share of nimrods. Hmmmm, perhaps we have met.....
Rut, I am truly sorry if I offended you kind sir. My humblest apologies as I did not mean too. I'm simply relaying a story of my Alabama experience when I was moving my mom back to Texas from Alabama. At that time she was working for the government and got transferred there and then transferred back to Texas. I had just returned from overseas, where I had not been back to the US for 3 straight years (8 in total). So, you can (maybe) imagine that after serving my time, traveling the world, learning about other cultures, religions, FOODS, customs, languages, governments back to the greatest country on earth (my opinion) and then seeing a flyer for a Klan meeting outside of Montgomery? Wow. I thought that was stuff that I just read about in high school and from another time in our history. Nope, front and center in my face. I should have ripped it off the wall and urintated on it, but was so shocked as to what I was reading and more importantly frightened.
As a man of color, with a whole lineage of family of color who worked in the South as migrant workers they too had their fair share of indignities of prejudice. When my mom was a little girl she sat in front of the rest room crying to herself because she did not know which bathroom to go into as she die not fit the "Whites Only" nor "Colored Only" category. She was brown and there was not a entrances for brown people. It was my Grandfather who had to explain to her that was for the colored people (old term there) and that she could use the "Whites only" one...but hurry up.
So, like those who are taught racism at an early age, there are those of us who are taught to fear racism at an early age. Further, we are taught to avoid conflict, situations or areas that are historically persona non grata for minorities. So, what I am telling you Rut, is that I have the opposite type of mentality. Whereby, those of use who have been targets of racial slurs, attacks, taunts, humiliation, embarrassment because of skin color have no business further exasperating the situation by being in places were I might not be welcome. My mother has that fear, I have half the fear because I am from a different generation and my kids...well they don't give it a second thought because they have not yet been affected or experienced it. I still have to endure it now and then and as early as last summer I was singled out and belittled at an HOA meeting by, you guess it, an older caucasian women around my moms age who was the HOA manager. The only thing I could only figure at that time was it an act of micro aggression racism (thanks Jazz) due to my skin color. I was humiliated in front of my neighbors and afterwards some of my neighbors asked me "what was that all about?" I raised so much hell with HOA and management company that I vowed to never participate in the HOA again until she was gone. Thankfully, she was eventually replaced. Yet sadly, as far as I can remember in my life, I have experienced racism even when I was in the military. The funny thing is-is that all happened state side, but never overseas.
But, your right Rut, I should have not indicted the entire south in my comment as this situation is in Minnesota north of all of us! Which goes to show that racism exists everywhere including in my home state of Texas. As a matter of fact, Vidor, Texas is so bad with KKK that it is not even listed in the Texas Handbook of Places to Visit and yes when traveling down the I-10 I don't stop there for anything. Taught that lesson to my kids early on. A lesson that has been handed down from generation to generation for those of us who are of color and its just one of those things to stay safe...in my own state and country.
Regardless, Rut I did not mean to offend you with my ignorant, reprehensible and nimrodish comment. I've been called worse, but I own what I say and write and again I apologize to you sir for any offense and given the opportunity to meet I would apologize to you in person like a man and beg for your forgiveness. And that is why I responded to your post which was simply to explain where I was coming from, thats all. To me, not to answer or respond would be kinda chicken chit. No Rut, you my fellow collector in arms and forum friend deserved an answer and a apology to which I hope you accept.
John from Texas